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[b]To Let Go….
by leftcoastannie[/b]
[*]To Let Go does not mean to stop caring. It means I can't do it for someone else.
[*]To Let Go is not to cut myself off, itâs the realization that I can't control another.
[*]To Let Go is not to enable but to allow learning from natural consequences.
[*]To Let Go is to admit powerlessness which means that the outcome is not in my hands.
[*]To Let Go is not to try to change or blame another but to make the most of myself.
[*]To Let Go is not to care for but to care about.
[*]To Let Go is not to fix but to be supportive.
[*]To Let Go is not to judge but to allow another to be a human being.
[*]To Let Go is not to be in the middle arranging the outcome but to allow others to affect their destinies.
[*]To Let Go is not to be protective it's to permit another to face reality.
[*]To Let Go is not to deny but to accept.
[*]To Let Go is not to nag, scold, or argue but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
[*]To Let Go is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes and to cherish myself in it.
[*]To Let Go is not to criticize and regulate anybody but to try to become what I dream I can be.
[*]To Let Go is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the future.
[*]To Let Go is to fear less and love more."Don't look down on someone unless you are leaning over to help them up."
Leftcoastannie
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(Originally posted on Facebook on November 16, 2006)
Thank you, Diane. But I cannot take credit for composing it. It was originally posted on Facebook in 2006 but I didn't come across it until several years later. I'm glad to know you like it though. My hope is that it will help others as it has helped me.
Hugs, Annie
Never look down on someone unless you're leaning over to help them up.
I n e he was in rehab that was important for him to work on used help knowing if i should let go and move on.My partner of six years has come back from rehab a week now. While he was in he was positive loving and continuous about telling me he loved me and was sorry for all the hurt he caused. I have forgiven but not forget just yet because there was years of verbal and physical abuse.Taking my own inventory i cant say i haven't lost my patience or been fully understanding but i know for me i have remained calm and together. However he does not think so. He has been edgy short fused and goes back and forth. One minute he loves me the next he says he is unhappy with me and it isnt going to work. I have stood by his side and sacrifice d for years. I hete that he is giving me mixed feelings or says im not changing but doesnt realize how mean and distant he is being. Yesterday he reached out and said he feels bad and he sucks for how he has been treating me he said that being around me reminds him of all the horrible things he didand looking at me and having to relive that makes him angry and push me away. I thank him for being so honest told him I forgive him and then I know it's not easyI told him it's in the past and you should forgive himselfI thought with that conversation we had some sort of a breakthroughbut yet again I woke up this morning with him feeling distant.I have to admit a small TIFF did break outbut he said something that hurt my feelings and I reacted emotionally. I immediately apologize and said I'm wrong I was hurt by your statement and I allowed myself to Act With my emotions first. ever since then he is been back being mean to me all day and telling me how much he doesn't want to be with mebecause he sees me for who I am now.the constant telling me now that he is not happy is making me feel like I should just leavebut I hate him for that because you not taking a look at how mean he is being to me. and I hate him for the fact that I have to give him timeand then I have stood by him for yearsbut all of a sudden he can come home and automatically give up on me. again I don't even know what I'm doing so wrong I mainly not even home because I'm working to support us both I'm reading things I'm supposed to you and trying to apply new skills I even went to counseling with him the other daybut I feel like he's not even giving us a try when I was told so much while he was in rehab that was important for him to work on us. my heart is hurt I feel abandoned yet againand I don't know what the right answer is. I don't understand why he tells me things won't work and he's unhappy with me but then asked me to start looking for a new place for us to live so he can be in a new environment.I feel unloved forgotten ignored I'm confusedI'm crying out for anyone's advice or just anyone to talk to
You are in my prayers and from reading what you wrote I think you know the answer to your situation. LEAVE him and work on you! He is right, I would leave him and tell him that he really needs to think about what he wants and that it is best for both of you to recover from the past by being apart for at least one year and in that time, really work on you and what makes you happy because you are not happy right now and neither is he, but you both could be happy again together, you just have to work on what has happened to the past and bury it all after you have gotten it all out in therapy and truly find out who you are, and what is truly going to make you happy…
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