Nar-Anon Chat™

I do hope you can get through this time of the year. My husband sounds like that a lot, lieing and coming up with different ways to spin each lie. I have to let it slide off and ignore the fact that he is treating me like I'm another child in the house because he can't get past his own eyelids somedays. It's something to shoulder but not alone if you don't want it to be.
We're all here for ya now, bonnie. know that!

in reading and searching for information i came across some info on HBO and addiction. they did some serious documentaries on the subject. one thing that stuck out for me was the disease of addiction was described as a brain disease. once infected the brain doesn't work the same. so to expect the the addicted to respond in ways that would normally make sense to the unaffected isn't likely to happen. doesn't make it any easier to deal with, but sometimes understanding can help with the acceptance. made sense to me, maybe it will help you too.

it is heart breaking for sure. and at least my brain has a hard time wondering why telling the addict what they are doing and then they will just turn it around and stop. but that seems to be the furthest from what really happens. i just keep reviewing the information i've found each and ever time things seem bad and i want to do something. each time it gets a little easier to accept and maybe eventually thinking this new way will be second nature and make my life easier and our interactions more positive. hope i did more than ramble here. take care