Hi – I am giving this a try. I have tried NAMI, Al Anon, and went to a Nar-anon meeting. I havent felt comfortable and each meeting I went to there was always a mean lady and a person who sad the the same thing over and over and I couldnt get anything out of it.
My daughter just graduated high school with a 3.0 last June. She went into treatment last February for Mental Illness and came out addicted and met "New Friends".
She met a 25 year old Heroin addict there who is facing 2 felonies and has 2 babies and has run off to Texas with him and her estranged father has funded her the last few months and she barely emails me. I havent seen or talked to her in a few month and I am so depressed.
I do not know what else to do. I need help….
I have a 38-year-old daughter who graduated with highest honors from a university (difficult degree) and undertook an intensive job while married with children. She came apart in dribs and drabs from the middle of her university schooling. She's been in dual diagnosis programs so often I think that somewhere there is a hospital wing with her name on it. She's had up to a year of sobriety and then decompensated again. She got started on drugs with a necessary surgery. 🙁
I wish there was a good answer. My adult child has been section 35'd several times for suicidal intent and once over a near-death OD. I've gone to open NA meetings with her. I've done countless Al-Anon meetings. There are few Nar-Anon meetings so only online for those. It is a nightmare watching our children decompensate because while one can divorce a spouse there is no such thing as divorcing one's children – at least not for me. In the end, I did leave the area where she was at because the constant stress was tearing me apart.
I think I am "letting go and letting the God of my understanding" and then I start getting frantic messages from friends of hers who think she's at risk of suicide or OD. Thankfully (sadly) she no longer has custody of her children so they won't have to stumble on her cold, dead, body if it comes to that. :'( I find myself overeating to fill the dead space inside, recognizing there is nothing I can do to save her from herself. The only time I hear from her she wants something – generally money.
She was just outed carrying her "works" when a friend of mine who still lives near her offered to take her to the grocery store and she ended up getting drugs and shooting up (heroin) during the trip. My friend is saddened and now another resource is gone.
This is a horrible disease. There is no cure that we can impose from the outside. It is all on them.
If you can't find an Nar-Anon meeting consider Al-Anon. This is a long, long haul situation and for both us and the kids it is a life sentence. 🙁
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