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Hello, my name is Peach, and I literally just ended a long-time relationship with an addict yesterday. I am almost 39 years old and at my parents house because I didnât know what to do with myself, but now I feel more alone than ever. I know one thing is for certain: he and I cannot work this one out, and our relationship has run me right into the ground. This man has taken everything from me physically, emotionally, and financially…and I allowed it to happen. I realize now how codependent we were on each other and how much I enabled himâto the point where he has stolen thousands of dollars, my identity, my own medication constantly, and even stole small, but sentimental things just to make me think I was crazy. He knew exactly how to manipulate me and turn everything he did around on meâlike manipulators do. I took a chance on love, especially with him, and I am devestated how many times Iâve allowed him to gotet away with this. I feel like we are two grown children at the moment because heâs gotten his parents involved and mine are completely thrown by the whole thing. Iâve been very private about all this, so they were shocked when I showed up at their doorstep and finally told them everything. I am so humiliated, but heâs taken me for all I had, and I was such a mess all last semester, I took a leave from school where Iâm studying for my masterâs degree. I also lost my job, but am getting unemployment, which heâs stolen too. Yesterday, was the last straw. While I canât blame him for all my problems , I can say a lot of my issues have stemmed from his prescription pill addiction, and while I hate the disease and what itâs done to him, I just canât take his lies anymore. I came home to find my house trashed and heâd taken every gift heâd ever bought for me and for some reason all the cables to the back of the television that linked to the internet. I think he did this to try to sabotage school for me just like he unconsciously sabotaged everything else in my life by constantly âneeding me,â and instead of purring my foot down, I allowed it to happen hoping by some miracle heâd learn, but he never does, and it always stars the same. This time was because he didnât know what uSS he was so messed up @ work I had to go and pick him up
up. He had abused so many of his prescription medications he was not in reality and was seeing and hearing things that werenât there. I tried to take him to the hospital and he wouldnât let me and started cursing at me and calling me the most godawful names. I finally went to bed and when I woke up he was gone. I left and went to a drs apt and while I was there his mom called me and asked was he using, I was honest with her and i I told her what was going on. She didnât seem too happy but what could she do? Other time I got home found has taken all my things that werenât bolted to the ground basically and even Stone a necklace he bought me on my grandmother passed away. They say itâs the small things but tear relationship apart and this was that one thing. Now I have no Internet at my house heâs taking all my work clothes and have my shoes so I canât go to work when I start my new job next week or so he thinks. His parents have done nothing even when I threatened to call the police, his dad said I said stay away and that he was just using me and that made me so upset. But now I no never to make the same mistake again around I just wish you were here with me sorry for what he did but he isnât he sent me several for me emails saying heâs in a come get my house and get his things he has nothing left there he just wants the yard house for some reason probably stash drive she means Iâm gonna have to clean make sure itâs all gone. I really donât want to do with it right now. I am new to all this and I need some guidance and some help and some friends Iâve been alone for so long I donât even know what a healthy relationship looks like Iâm too scared to even go to an actual mean I just want my life to get better. I recognize I am powerless over his addiction but other than that Iâm lost and broken .
Just wanted to say Iâm in a very similar situation right now. My husband is causing turmoil in our life right now and Iâm trying to hide it from family but itâs coming to the point where I canât anymore. Iâm so broken my emotions are all over the place even on âgood daysâ. My husband is my best friend and we are inseparable except when it comes to his addiction and I canât help but to feel like he chooses drugs over me. When he uses he gets distant from me and it kills me bc we are inseparable usually, itâs like I look him in the eyes and I feel like Iâm looking someone else in the eyes. He is causing so much financial problems that I feel like Iâm going to end up on my gmas front porch and explain to her that Iâve been lying to hide/cover up his addiction for so long, just like you said youâve done. I feel powerless and donât know what to do I feel like Iâm wetchung my life fall apart and I know where itâs headed and I canât stop it. I allow the love for him to outway the love I have for myself. He is so manipulative and I know heâs being manipulative and I still canât give up on him. I donât know what to do I feel like Iâm on a train with no brakes and I know Iâm gonna hit a wall but I decide to stay on the train anyways. Hoping we could give each other words of encouragement, I could definitely use a friend also been trying to hide this for way to long.
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