Hi,
I am in a long term relationship with an addict. It seems like he turned into an addict over night. But I guess he didn't. I've been in my own counseling for years, but could not accept I needed Naranon. We have a 5 year old son and I need help. Is it wrong for me to not want the addict in the house high? I don't know what to do. He was in rehab last year and stayed clean for 8 months. Then he slowly worked his way back to cocaine. I know I can't control him but am I supposed to allow him to live with us if he is using? I really need guidance. He is telling our son I don't want him home. I'm worried about our son's emotional state. I told him that his dad is sick and is going to need help. I guess mommy is, too. Please help!
Hi there, I'm so sorry to hear you are going through all his. Addiction isn't just a problem but a true underlying disease. I, too just found out about someone who I truly love, my father with a horrible gambling addiction. I know our situation is quite different in some sense but addiction is addiction. They tend to be selfish and push away those who love them most. If you have a son, be a good mother that you are and protect him and do your best not get in between the things he says. For example, I just found out my father has a gambling addiction for 30 years. I always remember my mother not wanting me to be in the middle of it and kept saying "you will understand when you grow up". My own father tried to turn me against her but remember at the end, the truth eventually comes out. I think you did the right thing by saying that he is sick and going to get help. If he asks for details I would do my best to explain that there mental illness as much as there is physical sickness. My best advice for you is to remember to take care of YOURSELF and your family first. Don't forget self care and love. Which is often what people in our situation do and do your best to life YOUR best life. Life is not life if you are busy living for others. My heart goes out to you and hope that everyday gets better. Stay strong and keep praying for the best
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