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March 11, 2021 - 12:12 am

Hi everyone! My name is Melissa. I am a mother of six children, four. Are grown, three grandchildren, I have custody of two. My 25 year old daughter is an addict, my husband is an addict, I have grown step children that a few struggle with addiction, my x boyfriend passed from an overdose. I was raised to keep our family business in the home, so as an adult I keep my business, thoughts, feelings to myself, especially the things I’ve gone through with my loved ones and their addictions. I have deep trust issues but I am learning I can’t do everything alone, even though I know I’m never alone, I have God but I tend to try to handle things on my own at times I know I have to hand it all over to my higher power but I feel that’s leading me here. I feel alone, confused, and so tired. Some days my anxiety is so high from worrying it’s hard to enjoy anything in life. Some days it feels as if my heart has been ripped out. I am an empathist, I have always tried to be understanding and now I just feel angry a lot. I’ve heard there is a twelve step for us, I’m willing to learn what I can from this group in hopes of healing and doing what is good for me. 🙏🏻🙂❤️

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March 11, 2021 - 6:22 pm

Hi Melissa, welcome!!

I can relate to much of your share. There was a time when I thought I would never be happy again. Anger and resentment consumed me. In trying to “fix” the addicted loved ones in my life I lost myself. When I found this fellowship I found my salvation. The new friends I made here held me up when I couldn’t hold myself up. They listened without judgment or telling me what I “should do.” So I kept attending the meetings here (3 a week), and now I am able to give to those in need. Hope to see you in a meeting sometime soon or chat with you in the chatroom.

Yours in service and friendship,
Annie

Never look down on someone unless you're leaning over to help them up.

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March 12, 2021 - 7:12 pm

Hello Melissa and welcome to the group!

I also can relate to what you have shared. I was so upset and broken when I came here, but there were ppl here that were here to support me. They understood. They listened. I came to meetings and to the chatroom to chat. Hope to see you soon in chatroom or one of our three meetings/week here.

Glad you found us and look forward to meeting you.

Robin

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March 13, 2021 - 9:40 am

Hi Melissa,
Welome! You took the first step in helping yourself, great job! As Annie and Robin said, there are so many supportive people here to listen and give you strength when you think you don’t have any left. I can relate to your feelings, especially the anger. You are not alone! I hope to see you in the chat room or in a meeting.
Stefanie

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March 15, 2021 - 5:02 pm

I’m glad you found this web site Melissa. Before I found Nar-Anon, I had dealt with my addicted son for 10 years. I was a complete mess when I walked into my first meeting 2 1/2 years ago. I quickly learned that every one else in my group understood completely what my life was like living with someone struggling with active addiction. I have embraced this program 100% and what I have learned in this program has help me find some sense of peace and serenity. I kinda like to say I have been cognitively restructured. My way of thinking and dealing with my son, others and all the situations we run into in life has changed for the better. Please check us out and join us for our meetings in the chat room. You will be welcomed and accepted into the group. The support we all provide to each other is amazing. Meetings are Monday and Thursday at 9:00 pm EST and Saturdays at 8:30. CYA soon

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