Nar-Anon Chat™

Hi

I am new to Nar-Anon. This is the first time I have ever looked into it. I have been to Alanon many times but my husband is a major Heroin addict so I thought this might be better.

My husband has just spent 50 days in rehab for the 3rd time this year. He is a heroin addict. He was doing so well while in rehab. I did not force him in this time it was all him. He was willing to do 90 days or however long it took. The rehab now has him in an IOP which he still lives there but he has his car and has free time. We always faught about money because he manipulated me into giving him money. His parents never say no to him either so he thinks he can just get what he wants. When he was moving to this program I spoke to the therapit about my concerns with money and how I cant afford to just keep giving and giving. They came up with a budget and I gave it to him on Sunday and he went right away and used drugs. He came back to his apt and told his roommate everything and then told me the truth. It was agreed he would help him this one time because my husband was so angry at himself. So he is peeing in cups for him. I told him if my husband messes up one more time dont save him let him deal with consequences. My husband keeps trying to get more money off me and we are fighting like we used too. I dont know what to do. I know I should not be checking the phone records but i see the drug dealer being contacted. He hangs up on me or leaves when I say no to money. Or i say lets discuss with our therapist and he says we should figure it out ourselves. I have a feeling he is still using as I am sure any of you would say. I just dont know what to do…..I was not expecting this and im loosing my mind