Hello everyone,
I am new to Nar-Anon. My daughter, now 21, has been addicted since age 13. We have paid for counseling, treatment multiple times and recently kicked her out after yet another relapse. She went to live with my parents (Ugh) and now is living in a sober living. We have been blessed by the family counseling we received while she was in treatment, but I find myself without support for this stage of the game. Letting go of her future and finances has been/is the hardest battle to date.
My son, age 18, uses occasionally. We had to kick him out in March after he came home high and hit me and my spouse, the punched out a window. He now lives with his dad. I cannot risk that kind of abuse in my home and he refused all help we offered.
I feel like a failure as a parent and fearful for my children's future. Help!
I am sorry to hear that you are struggling, but I am glad you are reaching out for support from others that truly understand the chaos created by addiction. There are a lot of people within this room that feel the way you do. One thing is for sure though,
having children who make the choice to use, recreationally or chronically, has ZERO to do with your parenting. While we as parents "make mistakes" nothing we have done causes/leads our children to become an addict. That being said, I am sure all of us at some point were in denial and enabled our addicts. Just know that you are not alone. Come chat in the chat room and meet some great people who share your shoes. The chat room is busiest in the evening hours, but you will often find people there throughout the day. There are also online meetings on Monday 9pm EST, Thursday 9pm EST and Saturday 8:30pm EST. Hope to see you there!
Hi,
Im new to this chat room but after 8 years of delaing with my son, im finally realizing the I need support by people who are going
through what i am feeling. Letting go is the hardest thing for me my son is now in a half way house but threatening to leave after a week. I'm not taking his calls and just praying that he will see the light.This addii
ction has destroyed my family. I'm finding that no one really understands what you go thorugh unless you walk a mile in my shoes.
Hi, I am new this chat room . I have a son who is severly addicted to weed and drinking . I feel so bad that I have let my son become so addicted . He is working but I believe it is so he can smoke or drink . He is 19 years old . He works but he disrupts my life and don't even care anymore . I have asked to respect are home and it seems to go in one ear and out the other . I can not just put him out in the streets . I am trying to learn on how to cope with this and not lose my sanity …
Hi I am fairly new as well. My partner of 6 months has an addiction to cocaine and alcohol. Fortunately she has been clean for five months and two weeks. She has completed inpatient rehab and is in a halfway house doing outpatient. Anyway, it has definitely been a whirlwind of emotions and experiences. She is looking at discharge in November and I have found some helpful words in the chat rooms when I just needed to vent or talk or just listen. I am learning a lot and am will continue to learn n do the work so that I can maintain my well being too.I'm grateful programs like this exist.
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