Nar-Anon Chat™

Hi all!

I am brand new to these kinds of meetings and the online forum. My fiance is in early recovery and our counselor this week suggested an online support group since meetings are scarce in my area. I am trying to find some more positive people to connect with because there seems to be so much negativity around addiction and recovery and I need more hope. I understand what can go wrong and the statistics, the disease, etc, but we are in a very good place right now compared to our past 2 years while he was actively using and I want to help better myself to help support him and the relationship in the right direction. I often times get in my head and question stupid things because of our past. I've become too obsessed with him, what he's doing and who he's talking to even at times when I don't have reason to be. I am trying to learn to loosen up, let go and trust in the process, God and what is to come. I just don't want to ever end up blindsided or devastated like I've been so many times in the past. I love this man more than anything, and outside of his addiction, he is the best man I've ever known. Together we are working so hard on this new life of recovery and saying goodbye to the way things were, and welcoming the way things are and will be. Any tips that help you all stay positive and trust in recovery would be greatly appreciated. I'm willing to read books, websites, I attend regular counseling for myself and another counselor for us as a couple and go to some local meetings when possible. I just need help calming my brain sometimes. Thanks!