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July 18, 2017 - 2:26 pm

Hey everyone, I have been thinking about attending Al-Anon or Nar-Anon meetings but it becomes very hard with my schedule. I am glad I have found something like this. My older sister is 29 years old and is suffering from a Heroin addiction. The other week her boyfriend overdosed in my house and I had to give him CPR with my sister until the ambulance came and gave him narcan. He was completely unresponsive until the narcan and is now in rehab. This is all very hard for me and I fear for my sister every single day. It is also difficult because a lot of friends who I attempt to talk to just don't understand and are actually quite rude. I also have two other sisters and a brother. We are a family of five kids and are an extremely close family. It is killing me to see this because my sister is a wonderful person and I wish I can just take it all away from her. Nice to meet everyone and I hope we can work through this together!

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July 24, 2017 - 5:22 pm

Hi! I am new here as well! It is hard to see someone you love going through something like addiction. No one else understands. I feel alone a lot. My husband of 18 years is a meth addict. I tried to help him for years, but found out I cant. He needs to find out on his own. I started reading posts in this forum to help me or guide me. I started attending NA meetings too. They do help, mostly to vent and to know you are not alone. It is good to talk about things with people who understand. I know you love your sister. I love my husband very much, but please do not let her addiction become your addiction. Trying to find out ways to help her of keep her from the bad things and people. Only she can do that herself! I love my husband and would do anything for him. I tried! I just realized that he needs to find his bottom. Then maybe he can see that he has a problem. Until then I will watch….from far! Don't let your sister or her "friends" be toxic in your home or family. Sometimes you have to set boundaries for yourself. Stay well!

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July 25, 2017 - 7:24 pm

Thank you so much , I actually attended Alanon the other week and I really enjoyed it , it's nice to find a community of people who get it . I am so sorry to hear about your husband . They discussed detaching with love . This concept is sooo difficult yet definitely needed . It's definitely a process . Did it take you awhile to be able to realize all that you have ? I also love how you said don't allow her addiction to become my addiction . I've noticed I am definitely guilty of that as I have allowed it to consume me and my thoughts . Your words mean a lot to me and I thank you for reaching out to me .

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July 28, 2017 - 8:06 pm

Hi all. I am new here. My younger brother is an addict. A few days ago my mom called 911 after my brother was unresponsive on the bathroom floor chocking on a puddle of water on the floor. When the police and EMT arrived they found Heroin. He refuses to admit he is using. My mom finally got the courage to tell him he could not live with her and use. He blames everyone, and says everyone is overacting. Everything I read says to establish boundaries which will eventually force the addict to look within. But it is so harder said then done. The idea of what if? I told him I could not stand by and watch him destroy his life, but when he was ready to get help I would stand by him 100%. Is this the wrong move? I am scared… Was that the wrong move???

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