Hello, Iâm so grateful for finding this. I have an addicted daughter of Herione, pills, and crack. She spent 7 months in jail, lost her son and was doing fine for about a month after jail. She has relapsed about 3 weeks ago and now is off her rocker! Sheâs back on the streets using and saying she wants to die. Itâs been 11 years of hell I just donât know where to turn anymore. She cannot live at anyoneâs house she gets violent when high itâs bad. Is it horrible Iâd rather her be in jail at least I got to talk to her the real her and sleep at night knowing where she was with food and safe. Thank you for letting me vent Iâm just so lost.
Hello back, I too have a 28 year old daughter that has been in and out of jail, rehabs, juvenille centers when she was younger, so many psychiatrists, doctors, counselors…. She's lived on the streets, in abandoned houses, in Key West, In CA, and has been back home a few times now. She's back here now. She relapsed as soon as she came back and is now on Suboxone which is helping her to live. The chaos in her, the craziness in her, the anger in her, the love in her… it's a roller coaster of emotion. It's the addiciton that takes away my daughter and being clean brings her back. I have hope. Always have hope. I live with the reality that we all live and we die. And she will either live or she will die as well. I take the good when I get it and hold on tight to that. It's hard. It's painful. Sometimes I am not sure I can go on myself. But I do. I have a son and a daughter in law and a grandson that want me around. My daughter takes up a lot of space in my head if I let her. Its hard not to. So keep reaching out, keep talking, keep telling her you love her and why. I too appreciated being able to talk to her when she was incarcarated. I slept better. I took calls when I could talk to her instead of feeling that dread each time I pick up the phone of oh, no now what does she want… or what's gone wrong now. 🙂 Hang in there. I read your note and it hit home with me. We're all here because we love someone. Just figure out how to separate the additiction from that person and love them, hate the addiction. HUGS…
You sound like you are living my life to a certain extent…so sorry. I am also a newbie looking for guidance and support on how to let go or set boundaries with my heavily addicted adult daughter. She too has lost everything, including her children, her fiance' to an overdose, her home and vehicle and sadly, all of her other family members and non drug addict friends. To be absolutely honest, the ONLY reason I am still answering the phone when she calls, which those calls are getting fewer and farther between, is to know that she's still alive. Am I doing the right things by doing that, even though I get panicked along with so much anxiety when I haven't heard from her in a while. She has all new "friends" now, and I've found it's useless to even try to talk to any of them, as they are addicts and liars just like my daughter. They don't care at all that all you want to know is if your child is dead or alive. I just don't know what I should or shouldn't be doing right now and what boundaries to set..that I haven't already. I used to always be afraid I was going too make her even more mad at me by not giving in to her demands, feeding into the drama and believing her empty threats of just about anything you can imagine, and honestly, sometimes I still am if I don't hear from her in a while and I don't try to reach out to her first. She has torn our family up with all her drama and the fear she puts into all of us. Fear of what may happen or even what she might try to do to one of us, as this has been a problem in the past when we don't give into it all. Just want some peace…but still always so filled with anxiety and fear. Any help or suggestions would be more than greatly appreciated….thank you for listening, and thank you in advance to anyone that could help me understand!
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