Nar-Anon Chat™

Im new to this but i guess i will just start by explaining my situation. Im 32 been with my wife nearly 10 years, we have 2 amazing children 3 and 7 years old. My wife had been using heroin for the last year and opiate pills before that. Our relationship was struggling, In august i realized there was a problem and began to ask family members for help. I found recipts for things she had pawned, I found heroin, foil, spoons and q-tips in her purse and bathroom. The next day i confronted her and was met with denial and anger. When she went to work i took the kids to my moms house and told her she needs to get help. Again i was met with denial and anger, her mom talked her into a urine test to prove her innocence. The test came back positive for a small amount of heroin. Because the test was for such a small amount I let her convince me she wasnt an addict and had made a mistake. Since our relationship was struggling and she was so upset about taking the kids that day she decided to move out at the end of the month. We drew up a parenting plan and were set to split in october with hope's of working on things. By the end of october she had a change of heart and we decided to continue living together. She supposedly was seeing a counselor and working through her issues. Over the next couple months i found parifinalia here and there and confronted her about it. She told me it was from the summer when she was using and that she had cleaned out her purse. I tried talking to her mom about it but she didnt want to hear about our failing relationship and told me to go to counseling because i was the one that needed help. Around christmas my wife started to stay out later and later during the week when i confronted her about it she said it was because her and i were fighting too often again (almost always because i was questioning her strange behavior and hours spent in the bathroom) so she was going to a friends or the casino. Shortly after i started to suspect she was cheating. I tried to talk to her mom about thw late nights and that i was worried. Again i was told she was leaving the house juat to not be around me. she began to run out of money even though she was gone all the time "working". When i confronted her this time i was given a story about how she had been caught buying heroin several months before and was now working with the cops as a nark and had to do buys at night in order to stay out of jail. Because i loved her i believed her and agreed to not tell the family in fear of someone blabbing and voiding her deal with the cops. After 3 weeks of not coming home until 6am i was pretty upset and pretty convinced she was cheating. I found recipts for xmas gifts i didnt receive, she had been stealing my debit card while i sleep, lingerie missing ect. After calling her oit on it I asked her to move out and she got very upset screaming at me throwing things at me and hitting me aome of which happened in front of our kids. A few days later i came home to a bunch of stolen stuff. I called the cops and she didnt cone home for 2 days. Her mom filed a missing person report and the cops found her at her new boyfriends house where they had been using heavily. The next time i heard from her she was out of gas and needed help. When i took her gas she was really high and there was syringes in thw car. She went to her mom house to sleep and see the kids. Her mom found more syringes and heroin in her purse. Ahe left there and wasnt seen for 2 days again. The next time i heard from her she had been stabbed by someone stealing her phone and needed help getting to the hospital. This went on for a couple more days and she finally came to her senses and went to detox. She is in a rehab facility now amd will be there for 30 days. At this point im watching both my kids and trying to work full time. Trying to balance being here for my kids and take care of myself.just looking for any input or advice on where i should go from here.