Iâm Jenn. My husband is an addict and we live 6 hours apart. We didnât realize how difficult it was going to be for him to cross the us/Canadian border with a criminal record so here we are. He was clean from about June to October and right now as far as I know, he is clean for two weeks. Really only because he has no money. I recently cut him off financially. He has a place to stay and a fairly new job, but he has a tendency to call in to work often. Last week he worked one day.
More bad days than good lately. He is currently upset with me because I wonât be his punching bag/sounding board when he has a bad day and wants to rant and talk about taking half a bottle of sleeping pills. He is so negative and angry and I try so hard not to get sucked into that. I have four children and I work at home but I work a LOT. I have a lot going on and I struggle with mild anxiety/depression and I donât get much from him right now obviously. He is telling me that he should be able to talk to me about anything. I am finding it difficult to be supportive when he is nasty and negative. When he has used, my knee jerk reaction is just anger and I canât even speak to him. He tells me this makes it harder for him.
I guess what Iâm struggling with is trying to figure out whatâs best for everyone. I want to be supportive but not enabling. I want to do what I can for him, but I donât want to lose my sanity or make it easy for him. His entire family has already left him on his own. Iâm not sure what the best thing to do is. Sorry for rambling.
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