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February 20, 2018 - 11:36 am

Hello. I am new and I am here because my husband is addicted to pain pills. He has been lying to me about it for the past four years. He doesn't understand why I don't just trust him. I've heard it all before and I believed it for a long time. I didn't even realize how bad it had gotten until recently. He doesn't use all of our money because he knows I would notice that. He mostly trades weed or does favors for his dealer for freebies like helping fix his scooter or wiring something up for him. He thinks that as long as he's not spending money (or at least not much), that I shouldn't have a problem with it. My favorite line is "I'm a grown man, I should be able to do what I want." I hear that all of the time and I try to explain that he's a grown man with a wife and kids and that his actions affect us. The pills make him a different person. The more I say I'm not okay with him using, the more angry he gets. It's always my fault when I discover he lied again. I want to leave, but we have a 4 year old daughter and a 1 year old son. My husband is the sole provider for our family and I can't work due to medical issues and I haven't qualified for disability yet. I feel like I'm stuck and he doesn't really want to change.

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March 12, 2018 - 12:01 am

My kids were teens when their father started with pills. We owned a business, had a beautiful home. I felt the same way stuck and I rode it out. The result. We lost everything. It took me to file for divorce when I came home and he sold my dining room set for drugs. I should of left in the very beginning. There are places to go especially for single moms in your situation if you wish to do so. In the mean time please make sure to connect with others in your situation both online and close by. Best to you.

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April 5, 2018 - 6:38 am

I know it’s easier said than done but if there is a will there is a way. My mother left my father because he was a serial cheater. She had 4 young kids too. She made it work. It’s also important to show your children you respect yourself and them enough to protect them. I speak from experience when I say unfortunately things don’t usually get better with time and drug use. I totally understand the feeling of being stuck, believe me, I hope you find the support you need to make this change. My best to you too.

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