Hi My Name is Richelle
I’m now separated from my husband of 9 years due to his 6 year
Meth addiction. I have my faith in God, therapist and have done tons
Of research. I’m at the end of my rope in complete exhaustion and a million mixed emotions.
Finally my new therapist convinced me to participate nar-anon.
I have been fighting this battle alone for so long, I am finally ready to join a group
That shares my same experiences. I am hoping to learn, grow and gain strength through this
Support group. Thank you for allowing me to share and I look forward to hearing your stories
And over coming accomplishments.
Hello to all.. I can say that I too are living this same rollercoaster lifestyle with my common law spouse of 19 yrs now . I have just learned he has been using Meth for the past 2.5 yrs not to mention the other 15 on and off of cocaine.. injecting as well as smoking it. My spouse is 59 yrs old this year, and not in good health , it makes me sick to know he has been doing this and lying to me for years, even when I suspected it many of times. The lies , the mental abuse we will never get over. They cannot be trusted. As soon as I begin to trust he is being honest and clean and I stop questioning him , it seems he takes advantage of that and starts up again.
We are still together and he is suppose to be clean for the last 2 months from meth or any illegal substances.I am hoping this group still holds its chat meetings and that I can make it into one.
Hi. I am exactly where all of you are. I love my husband of 8 years more than I imagined possible but am at a loss as if to stay or go.
The lies and deceptions are one thing but to believe in them just to let it happen over and over is breaking me. I don’t know how to do this.
I have no one to talk to about it because the bottom line is I am also a self known co-dependent and I do anything in my power, including
Taking the emotional abuse, to protect him. He knows I won’t follow through with my threats to leave or divorce him.
Hi,
None of you are alone! The meetings on Mondays, Thursdays, and Saturdays are so helpful! I too have been with my addicted common law spouse for 24 years. We have a child together and I feel like a single parent. The lies, irresponsibility, and sickness is so tiring! By attending these meetings I am learning VERY slowly that I need to let go and let God take charge and follow his lead. This is not an easy thing to do when you have always been a control freak! The people in the meetings are so supportive and understanding. I hope you choose to try one!
Stay strong,
Stefanie
I just have so many questions my husband of 30 years just relapsed after 10 years and I dont know how to even behave around him when he uses. he is just so different i dont get it and everything is my fault. Life is my fault. his words hurt so much but I see that just by reading a few comments that everything sounds so similar. I am confused about boundaries?????? I feel like I could use some samples between husband and wife of what boundaries to start with. When he speaks to me in a mean way I definitely dont feel close to him and really just try to be silent
dont want to talk to him or be next to him but then i wonder if thats the right thing
its been really hard to learn again what im supposed to do and how im supposed to behave. He uses information against me and tells me what he thinks i need to hear or see. im just tired and its not fair to me.i feel like he can do whatever he wants
i also smoke marijuana with him daily for the past many years. now i feel like i must quit i get it. i have tried before and its hard and i am maybe resentful becuse of everything we have been through together. this paragraph is just a mild beginning to what we are together when he doesnt use
i wonder does he see the difference in himself in how he treats me
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