Nar-Anon Chat™

I have gone back and forth about attending an actual meeting. I don't know if there is a problem or not. My daughter, who is 18 has completely changed. She was sweet, loving, smart, and enjoyed her family. She was shy and kept to herself. She graduated high school one year early and then she started changing. Now, she bounces from our house when we are fed up to her grandparents house, who refuse to tell her no. She has no job, goes from boy to boy, baths maybe every week or 2, rude and disrespectful to anyone who tries to show her a different way of living. She is in and out of the house all hours of night. She says she has been hooked on drugs but not any longer. But there must be something that is going on. She won't talk to anyone except to snap at them unless you are the person who sees she does not wrong. Her dad and I are in constant battle with family. We are trying our best and failing. One set of grandparents let her come and go and refuse to put her out, of the fear of where she may end up and will not work with us but complain that she is there and will not listen. Then the other gramma thinks our daughter is her best friend and nothing is wrong. Maybe she is not on drugs and we are the crazy ones.