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June 2, 2015 - 1:11 am

I don't know where to start…I guess I will start at the beginning.
I started seeing my now boyfriend almost a year ago. He is the brother and brother in law of close friends of mine. Our relationship started off pretty typical. We went on our first date after connecting at his brothers, my friends, wedding. We really hit it off. We would see each other once or twice a week and it increasingly got more. I wouldn't hear from him for 2-3 days at a time, but that was his norm, no concern from my end. I knew he drank and smoked weed (recreationally) but I had no idea until 6 months into it, on New Years Eve he opened up to me, while drunk, about his addiction to heroin and his struggle to be clean. Let me back up a bit, two months earlier he was arrested for "allegedly" stealing from his place of employment (which he denied until New Years Eve). He stole about $2,500 for drugs. His choice was jail or rehab…thankfully he wanted to be clean and chose rehab. I stuck with him through rehab and him admitting to stealing from me as well for drugs. After he was out of rehab, he had no where to go and I allowed him to move in with me. Finally, 3 months later he has a job and until now I had no suspicions of use or lying…I found a small plastic baggie in the bathroom and he has been nodding off more frequently.
My question is, how do I confront him about this. He tends to get very defensive and what should be a conversation turns into an argument/fight….if anyone has any suggestions, I would greatly appreciate it. I love him so much and I know deep down he is a wonderful man, I just need him to be honest with me and everyone around him. He also has stopped going to meetings, which has me worried as well….what to do???

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