Hi- This is my first time on here. I don't know a single person, within my circle, who can relate or even begin to understand what my life has become. And I've grown tired of hearing of my siblings' and friends' adult children who are living very typical lives. I am so exhausted; not one week can pass without some drama paralyzing me. I have a daughter who will be turning a tender-21 next month. She was such a happy girl, until about the 10th grade. She became depressed, and was cutting. When she was a junior, she started smoking pot (one month after a school shooting), but stopped when I began to randomly test her. She graduated from HS and went on to college; I believed she had turned a corner. Well, college lasted two weeks, and she has been spiraling ever since. She was addicted to pot and cocaine, and other unpleasant activities. Through all of this she was in therapy until her therapist recommended residential treatment. Initially she said, "Hell Nah", but for some reason, agreed to it about a week or two later. So she was in a dual-diagnosis residential treatment center for 4 months, and then a step-down program for another 5 months. She was doing so well! She enrolled in a class, continued in therapy, and was going to daily NA meetings. I bought a condo (don't judge, I already feel dumb) for her to live in because I knew she could not move back home in fear she'd go back to "old-friends". Plus, she had a whole new life where she was, and I didn't want that to change for her. Shortly before she left the step-down program on November 1st, she met a man who was also in recovery. Let's just say since meeting him, she stopped taking her medication, dropped her class, stopped working on her step work, moved this man into the condo (he uses her car to get around and doesn't pay rent), she only shows up to therapy about once a month, and is only going to NA meetings once a week. Last month, they committed a felony together. He already had a record, broke parol and made the news. My daughter was also arrested and has obtained a lawyer on her own. Who knows how this mess will turn out…Now they are trying to have a baby together. What?? Is this for real??? I got off the phone with her therapist tonight (my daughter did not show for yet another appointment). The therapist explained to me that my daughter has relapsed w/ some of her addictions and possibly with drugs too. I cannot afford to send her to rehab again, and I can barely afford her condo. I'm deathly afraid of what she would do if I did not provide the roof for her. I'm just so exasperated..I could go on and on…So here I am, hoping to find someone who can relate to my life and provide support without judgement. If this sounds remotely like your child, please reach out; I'd love to talk with you.
Hi Iâm Jenn..my 18 year old is an addict but refuses to accept it. He turned 18 on Dec 18th. Rewind 4 years…Since heâs 14 there have been issues with school, following rules, had a baby at 15 that we had to give up for adoption. He dropped out of HS…went to a military program and left after 7 weeks. He did do his GED and received it at 17 and now I have an 18 year old with no job, no school, all the time in the world. He now does not come home for days. Swears he only smokes weed but this life is killing me. I have a lot of support around me. I have taken everything I possibly could from him but he doesnât care. I am going to go to a meeting tomorrow night. My fiancé feels I should send him out of my house when Iâm not here but I just couldnât do it tonight. I can totally relate to what you are going through. I wish he would go to rehab. Iâm here if youâd like to talk.
I'm new here. The reason I joined is because of my 26 yr. old daughter. Smart, pretty, great personality…but has an addiction to getting high. All through high school she smoked alot of weed. She always said it wasn't a gateway drug. I told her it sure was. Well, since that time, she's tried everything at one time or another…molly, cocaine, ecstasy, and even heroin a couple times. She was dating a heroin addict, tried to help him kick the habit, he fell back into it and her curiosity got the best of her. That was when she lived in No. Carolina for a couple years. That's what made her pack up and leave NC…she knew she was likely to get hooked. Long story kinda short, she's been back home for 1 1/2 yrs. She was smoking weed one night and driving. A cop pulled her over, she was arrested for a DUI, court, fines, even 10 days in jail because she had a DWI when she was underage. Those records were supposed to be hidden because she was under age, but surprisingly enough (not really) they popped up when she got the DUI. That threw her over the edge and she even attempted suicide. She spent time in the psych hospital, then came out to counseling and drug counseling ordered by the court. Now because she's tested for drugs every week and can't get in trouble due to 3 yrs probation, she's turned to using DUSTER ! Disgusting duster. We've caught her a few times. She keeps trying to quit, but loses her better judgement and does it again. My husband is at the end of his rope, and I'm trying to help her. This is embarrassing for her and me and her father. After the last time her father caught her, she promised that was it. That was about 2 weeks ago…until yesterday. My husband left the house, wouldn't talk to her and I'm here trying to support her, talk it out with her, hope something clicks. She's always soooo sorry and swears it won't happen again…but it has. I don't know what to do. I can't give up on her, but I'm sure love isn't enough.Yesterday, her brother caught her doing it. Nobody was home and he came over. Now he says "she's dead to me!" he, his wife and their 2 1/2 yr. old will not be associating with her until she's CLEAN. She doesn't even know that yet. I spoke to her about going into a 30 day program. She's undecided and still thinks she can kick this herself. I don't
I am here because my brother is an addict. He is 37 years old. My mother is codependent/His biggest enabler. She will not have me criticize him, she gets upset that I have removed myself from his toxicity. When she asks me to do something for him, she says it's "really for her". We aren't really speaking right now because she was unhappy that I called her out on her preoccupation with him and his issues by pointing out that she has 2 children. She herself was the child of an alcoholic mother, so there are allllll kinds of residual issues there as well. I am struggling with the pain of it all.
My name is Teresa K. I am new to this site. I have been a member of a 12 program for 12 years. I have quiet a few addicts/alcoholics in my life. Some are clean/sober and some are still in active addiction. My daughter is my closest addict. God willing she will be picking up a 18mo. chip this month. I live in Birmingham, Alabama and a group of us have just started the only Nar-Anon meeting in this area on January 2, 2018. The meeting is one day per week and has grown each week. Recovery is possible!!
Hi I'm Trish, I'm a newcomer again. I have been to na aa and have faced a lot of my shortcomings as an addict and an enabler to someone I love. Seems I am back in this boat again with my addicted husband. It's been 4 years of hearing he is going to stop the next month, his doctor has now cut him down to his last 15 oxycodone. He was at 100, then 90 and so no. Please pray
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