Nar-Anon Chat™

Hello. Now I’m on the other side of this dreadful disease. I’m 3 years sober. After many years of of fighting, now it’s me who’s wondering how to confront someone else about their disease and how it’s going to destroy him. I don’t know how or when to do it. I know better than do it when he’s loaded. But sometimes I wonder if it’ would be worse when he’s coming down. If I wait until he’s sober, it may never happen or be too late. It’s destroying me mentally. Us financially. And him, all the above. He has no idea that I know what he’s be doing over the past year. Out of fear and selfishness, I’ve let it slide over and over again. Each time he uses I find myself becoming more and more resentful. And I should k ow better than to think he will just quit on his own or just because I want him to. He has to want to change on his own. He has to want to do it for himself and not me. And here I sit, knowing where to find meetings and what needs to be done. But, I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to even attempt approaching this topic with him. It can’t be out of anger and it can’t be made out of ultimatums. As an addict, I know what that does. Nothing.