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May 18, 2014 - 4:16 pm

Hi, I'm Mona. I'm new to the chat.
I was online looking for a Nar-Anon meeting place close to my home, but unfortunately , no.
I really don't have anyone to talk to, so I am hoping I can get some support here.
My husband is on pain medicine from a back surgery 5 years ago. He has been on every medicine possible. I know that by now he is addicted and he doesn't know life without the pills.
The pain meds have horrible side effects . Those side effects have taken a toll on our marriage for the past 5 year, and I am at my end. I have mentally and physically checked out of our marriage a while ago. He refuses to see the horrible side effects of the meds, and he is not the person I married 10 years ago.
I am having a really hard time dealing with this, and I have given it everything I've got.
WHEN he does talk to me, it's maybe a sentence, and includes me being a nag and a bitch. He is so sickly skinny. He works and he sleeps. His social skills are gone, and does not like to do anything. It is also causing other physical issues but he always has an excuse for those.
I just need someone to talk to , to let me know that I am not out of my mind.

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May 18, 2014 - 7:04 pm

Hi,
I can only speak from experience. The only thing that made my life better was admitting I can't control or make someone change. With love I gave my addict a choice. I will support you if you seek help through rehab or you can live elsewhere. he sought rehab. My life is much better now. Botttom line you can't converse with an active addict. There sick and aren't capable. It will destroy your life if you don't set boundaries for yourself. Your worth and by letting go stops feeding the addicts behavior. if you love him set a boundary. that's real love.

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