Hi! My name is Miranda and my husband is addicted to crack. We met when he had been 2 years clean, and I thought that everything was great, until his father got sick passed away somewhat unexpectedly last year. While we were caring for his father and after he passed, my husband started using again and it got way out of control very fast. Before I knew that he was using again, he forced a move from where we were living in VA to his father's home that we inherited in SC. Looking back, I believe that he was using all along, just infrequently and certainly nothing like it was this last year and a half.
Recently we went on a television program that took him 2500 miles away and put him in inpatient rehab. He has been clean for 31 days now and is trying to complete the program. I am kind of lost, and have been for a while, because I am totally alone here and 500+ miles from everyone and everything I know and love, except our two babies who I have been caring for by myself for the last year and a half.
Between the two of us we have six children (two that are ours and four that were from previous relationships but only the two babies live with us. The others live with his ex and mine because I had to send my older kids to their father because I couldn't have them around the crazy). I am a stay at home mom, and work online to pay our bills because any money that we were getting in had to go to drugs and we went from not having a thing in the world to worry about financially to being in a hole I don't know how to get out of.
At this point, especially after reading a little here, I am left with little hope that he can ever beat this and I am just looking for some people who understand what I have been thru and will be going through for the rest of our lives, apparently. 🙁
Hi Miranda,
Welcome to Nar-Anon Chat! I am glad you found us 🙂 You definitely are not alone. I have walked a mile in your shoes as have many others on this site. I highly recommend attending the online meetings (Monday 9pm EST, Thursday 9pm EST, & Saturday 8:30pm EST), as well as hanging out and meeting people during free chat time. Generally, there are more people in the evening time, but even during the day people are in and out. I found this site to be incredibly helpful in many ways. I hope it has the same magic for you. Maybe we will get a chance to meet in the chat room! Hang in there!
Oh….BTW, I am Nicole, and my ex-husband is also a crack addict.
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