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Introduction of myself- My name is Angie, and I am co-dependent I have learned. My husband is in a residential treatment facility at the moment getting help with opiate addiction as well as stimulant(Adderall- which he was prescribed, but abused) and also detoxed from Benzodiazapines (anti-anxiety prescribed, did not abuse). He is doing well he says and first time since he was 19 that he has been off of everything. He told me he can think clearly now and loves the feeling more than when he was ever on meds. Hope that lasts…
About me. 33, 3 kids- 11, 4 & 6 months. I'm playing the single mom now while he is in recovery, working full time, thankfully just finished up my online schooling last month! Im busy and taking care of it all, but really no different than when he was around and either sleeping, or so wound up he was working on multiple projects, etc.. wasn't "around" anyway. not really.
I have to learn how to NOT be in control when he gets home. NOT bug him about getting a job, not check where he is all the time, not call him to wake him up in the morning to make sure he's up for work, not make excuses, etc. It's gonna be hard, because before.. what he did , or DIDNT do affected us, the whole family.. and income. Now, with no income from him, not even unemployment since Dec, it's been really really hard. trying to stay in our house, hard. BUt I have to find a way I can do it alone, so I don't depend on him for that, and be co-dependent. I just don't know how its going to happen… and that is why I am here!!
Looking forward to insight of the group. I will be trying to log on and join the chat sessions, as there are only Alanon meetings in my area, not Nar-anon. I will check those out too, but not sure if it will be the same…
thanks!!
Angie
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