Hello. New to Nar-Anon. Haven't been to a meeting yet but thought I would try this. I'm married to a pain pill addict. Been married 14 years. He's been addicted for over 10 of those years. We have an 11 year old son. He is in a dual therapy / IOP into his second week. I don't know why, but I feel more scared now than before he was going. He won't talk to me. Comes home from group and basically ignores me. the problem is, the more I feel like I'm losing control, the more controlling I become! This morning I acted like a complete jerk and even took out my frustration on my son. I feel like a terrible person, wife and mother! I'm hoping I can learn and grow within this group. I'm hoping I can learn to let go and let God! It's so hard! Thanks for letting me vent! Happy to be here!
Hi, ive felt the exact same way. When my estranged wife started going to meetings i was put completely on the backburner, coffee with "them" for hours, kids ignored, ect. It was easier(in a sense) when she was using.The only thing ive found that helped was just giving her space, not always asking what was up and letting her figure it out for herself. I think its overwhelming to them at first and us asking every single question we have, might make it worse. I also tried to put my energy into doing things for myself, more time with my kids, getting back into something i enjoyed doing… basically occupying myself. Im extremely new to this as well so take what i say with caution lol. I hope everything gets better.
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