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I have been married for 10 years and found out last December that he had started using crack. I told him then and there it had to stop. I got the same nonsense that everyone gets, "no big deal, I can quit anytime". I sat on top of him and played detective and had reassurances that he could quit and the more I bugged him about it the greater the chance that he wouldn't quit, etc. I have gone between letting it go and turning it over to God and staying in the game and insisting this cannot be a part of our lives. I am sick of the bold face dishonesty. As if these lies he tries to peddle, anyone with two brain cells to rub together would even believe. I made him confront the fact today that he is not a good hearted guy with a few problems but rather a good hearted guy who is a full blown crack addict. I told him he cannot stop on his own or he already would have so he needs to look this addiction square in the eye and see it for what it is. I don't know if I should stay in the game or turn it lose. Nothing makes sense any more and I am so discouraged that he would bring this into our lives.
I can totally relate to what you wrote. My husband is also a Crack addict and definitely is the king of lies and manipulation. Unfortunately, I had no clue what was going on or the fall out that I would experience when this all started. I have learned so much about addiction and even more about myself. I am glad you found the site. Hope you try the online meetings or open chat in the chat room. I am there frequently and it helps me a lot. Hope to see you there 🙂
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