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October 13, 2014 - 9:12 pm

Me and my husband have been together over 20 yrs being married 11 of them. He can't seem to stop using and I finally stood up to him and told him he had to leave I he was going to use. He left and month later he got in touch with me telling me he was sorry and loved me and had not been using. He was crying so I let him come back home. That night he stole the money out of bank and I haven't seen or heard from him for 2 months. Sad part is I miss him and worry about him all the time. I feel like he started using again because my nephew was staying with us and he said he made him feel uncomfortable . I felt a little safer becaue my husband wouldn't throw his big fits in front of my nephew. I feel guilty and feel like everything is my fault

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October 15, 2014 - 5:40 pm

Why do I feel guilty like it is my fault he left? I finally stop up to him and then he leaves and is with someone else? Is he my addiction? Why do I feel no matter what choice I made I lost? If I let him stay I would continue to fight with him over money we don't have, he takes things from house to sale and he is verbally abusive and I feel alone. And if I make him go I miss him and the person I know he is when he is not in that stuff! I just feel so lost

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January 30, 2018 - 2:10 pm

First off I am so beyond sorry you are going through this. It must feel like a nightmare. I wish I had magic advice for you.. but I’m lost myself. But There is nothing wrong with th fact you miss him and have worries about his well being.. he is your husband.. you love him… but do know YOU deserve a good life..if he took it his far do not let him ruin your life. Don’t continue the suffering he started. I know you love him and you miss him.. I love my husband too even though he puts me through pain. Pray.. just pray for guidance. God Bless you will be in my prayers.

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