Nar-Anon Chat™

I was YouTube video today during my morning "Just for Me" moment before getting ready for work.

It talked about how to talk so an alcoholic/addict will listen.
I never realized that there is a way that is more effective when talking.

This is one of the statements that really hit me the hardest:

“Most of what the alcoholic or addict does during active addiction is dictated by the addiction rather than some deep rooted hatred of you.”

I stopped for a moment and thought about that statement. I began to imagine how upset I get every time my addict is high or out of control drunk and I lash out as if that is really going to make things better.

I'm slowly becoming to realize that lashing is easy to do but doesn't make the situation any easier for either of us.

I began to play in my mind how they are feeling just know they are in a bad space already. They have to think at some point of what they are doing to themselves.

It's so complex living with and dealing with an addict. I'm just ready to learn how now to become addicted to trying to deal with the addict.

This is why the first step is so important to me now.

Yes, I am powerless over MY addict and Yes, my life has become unmanageable.

Thank you for creating this space. I am truly grateful that my search found me in this safe space.