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I Hate When She Does This!
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March 26, 2014 - 5:17 pm

I’m feeling so frustrated right now. So I’m venting here instead of engaging any further with my ALO. It’s a fact that whenever my mum leaves the house by herself she comes back with enough booze to keep her in a drunken stupor for at least a week (I’m talking 24/7). We go through this every single time she goes out on her own. I made the mistake of expressing a fear of it happening again. BIG MISTAKE! Even though I was intentionally quiet and gentle when I said it she went into complete denial, told me she does not and attacked me for being accusatory and mean. When I told her I was not being either of those things that I was just stating a fact she began to cry, yelling that it isn’t true and that now she’s afraid to leave the house for fear of being accused unjustly. Instead of walking away I HAD to tell her that she can lie to me all she wants but deep down she knows it’s true at which point she stormed off to her room and now she’s upstairs crying and I’m down stairs feeling like an idiot for opening my mouth. Why I said anything in the first place is beyond me. It’s not like I expected her to agree with me. I guess all I can do going forward is pray that I’ve learned to mind my own business.

P.S. At least she has the good sense to never drink and drive. She always waits until she is in the safety of her room and does not leave the house again until it’s time to replenish her stash. For this I am grateful!

Thanks for listening.
Annie

Never look down on someone unless you're leaning over to help them up.

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March 28, 2014 - 4:37 pm

Annie, I think you shouldn't feel like an idiot at all, it may have been harsh and at first not intended to get the backlash from her that it got but if you didn't say something this time, it would've been some future situation or worse. At least you have the reassurance that she won't drink and drive, thus that absolute worse outcome may never happen.

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