Well, of course I was going to blow it, I donât have the Nar-Anon training. When AS called from jail at first, I was in control, AS was crying, insisting that we donât believe him, human traffickers have the girlfriend. I found myself trying to reason with him, letting him know this is just the effects of the drugs heâs taken. The next day call, now it turns to a mixed emotion of past behaviors, he starts saying, did you call a lawyer, did you call the Union, are you coming to my next court hearing. He starts demanding, after I let him know that heâs on his own, that Iâm not going to pay for his lawyer, that Iâm not driving 50 miles to attend his court hearing but I will call the Union for him (no matter what, I do want him to keep his career) We ended up in a big screaming match over the phone, after the call I was left broken and frazzled again but I realized, Iâm arguing with a damaged person, his brain cannot function at this time, he canât understand this tough love, heâs still in a lost pattern of life. At the end of the call he says, my family doesnât love me, you are going to leave me here! I swear when I get out all of you will never see me again. I donât know how to react to him at this time to begin a process of healing for both of us. Please share your experiences, thank you.
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