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January 30, 2018 - 2:00 pm

My husband is an addict and has been good for over a year but now stories are changing again and things aren’t adding up … my house is like a war zone… I know I cannot control it.. and I know he will use if he really wants too regardless of what I do or say.. but he’s stealing from me again.. I’ve hid my money for a while now and I slipped up yesterday and boom money gone. He is of course denying it .. and it hurts because it’s just us and my 8 year who doesn’t steal my money. It hurts me that it’s coming back to me as if I lost it. He never said that or put blame on me but “ it wasn’t him I don’t know where it is” I have been accusing him of lieing to me all week. There’s no question in my eyes he took the money none. I have zero trust with him anymore. It started two weeks ago when I found him on the floor of our bathroom because he shot up his subox meds. It’s been one thing after another since. So I don’t know how to ignore this when it’s now come back to stealing money from my wallet which then effects my whole household. I’m scared… and feel as if the world is crashing down around me. I just want this to stop and want him ok. All I do is cry and it’s starting to effect my health and life daily. How do I get through this. He also passed a drug test yesterday so I feel like ppl are looking at me like I’m crazy .. but I’m not there are just too many things that are wrong and too many stories changed.. and it ended with stolen money.. im even wondering if he got ahold of a printout of his doctor papers and faked it.. I’m just scared. How do I get through this..

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May 1, 2019 - 9:05 am

I remember times with my husband that are similar to your experience. I remember talking to my mother in law about money always missing. She told me to start putting my money in the freezer because men don't cook when they have a wife to do it for them. She would also tell me to put it under the rug that was under our couch. She would laugh and say at least you'll be sitting on money and he won't even have a clue that it's there.

I share this with you because it helps me too and I hope it can give you some relief just like it did for me.

Stay strong and continue to Let Go and Let God.

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